General Counselling

Good counselling helps to improve personal development. It is a lifelong process and a way for people to self-assess their skills and qualities.A means to evaluate their directions in life and set. Personal counselling empowers and teaches to develop positive attitudes towards life and to be free to make positive choices.

Low self-esteem is characterized by a lack of confidence and feeling badly about oneself. People with low self-esteem often feel unlovable, awkward, or incompetent. People with low self-esteem tend to be hypersensitive. They have a fragile sense of self that can easily be wounded by others.

People with healthy self-esteem like themselves and value their achievements. While everyone lacks confidence occasionally, people with low self-esteem feel unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time. This can be remedied but it takes attention and daily practice to boost self-esteem.

Negative early experiences are very important for the development of low self-esteem. Some of the factors that make it more likely that a person will develop low self-esteem include:

• • • Early experiences including punishment, neglect, or abuse. Early experiences such as abuse, neglect, bullying, or punishment are very important. Children who suffer these kinds of experiences often form the belief that they are bad and must have deserved the punishment.
    • Failing to meet other people’s expectations. You may feel that you are not good enough because you failed to meet someone else’s expectations – this might have meant your parent’s unrealistic standards – note that this does not mean that the expectations were fair or balanced in the first place.
    • Failing to meet the standards of your peer group. Being different or the ‘odd one out’ during adolescence, when your identity is forming, can powerfully impact your self-esteem.
    • Not receiving enough warmth, affection, praise, love, or encouragement. It is possible to develop low self-esteem even without overt negative experiences, but just through a deficit of enough positive ones. Without enough reinforcement that we are good, special, or loved, children can form the impression that they are not good enough.

The good news is that it is entirely possible to overcome low self-esteem! There are two key components to combating this negative self-image. The first is to stop listening to your critical inner voice. The second is to start practicing self-compassion.

Relationship problems sometimes arise because we never learned what to do or not to do, or problems arise because we have lost touch with our instinctive good sense and have become over-anxious about the relationship. Maybe you have lost your own self-respect and sense of our personal worth, or have had unfortunate experiences in past relationships and have temporarily lost your ability to trust, or maybe you have unrealistic expectations about what you should be getting from, or giving to, a relationship.

A person’s family and upbringing can play an important role in his or her future relationships. Personal stress can also place strain on the relationship. When people are stressed, they find it more difficult to be positive or to be forgiving .Most people, probably are managing many relationships on an ongoing basis–relationships with a loved one, with children, other family members, friends, work relationships, and a romantic relationship. Each of these relationships can be a source of love, pleasure, support and excitement; however they can also be a source of grief and anguish if they are heading in an unhealthy direction.

Each of our relationships has its own demands and problems and each has the ability to influence the way we feel at any given time. Distress in a relationship can lead to many problems including codependency, loneliness, stress, fear, depression and anxiety just to mention a few.  If you are having ongoing problems in any of your relationships, there is help available. The earlier you seek help the better since an earlier, rather than later, intervention will prevent the problem(s) from getting worse.

Learning effective and respectful ways to communicate differences is an important step in building a healthy, fulfilling relationship, and which can benefit our overall wellbeing and those around us.

Children’s physical and emotional status, as well as their social and cognitive development, greatly depend on their family dynamics. The rising incidence of behavioral problems among children could suggest that some families are struggling to cope with the increasing stresses they are experiencing.

Parenting Issues are any difficulties or concerns that parents face in raising their children. These include decisions about childcare, schooling, discipline, household chores, daily routines, finances, work-family balance, and so on. Parents may also need to resolve conflicts between siblings, between themselves and a child, or between themselves and another parent. For example, dealing with a moody and withdrawn teenager is a parenting issue that can cause stress.

Good parenting includes, keeping your child safe. Showing affection and listening to your child, providing order and consistency, setting and enforcing limits, and more. – Excerpted from the National Institutes of Health (NIH).

Anger management is a skill that everyone can learn. Even if you think you have your anger under control, there is always room for improvement. Managing your anger doesn’t mean you’re never getting angry though. Instead, it involves learning how to recognize, cope with, and express your anger in healthy and productive ways.

A Professionally guided anger management reduces the emotional and physical damage that anger can cause. It is generally impossible to avoid all people and settings that incite anger. But a person may learn to control reactions and respond in a socially appropriate manner. The support of a Psychologist may be helpful in this process.